Unmotivated, Undetermined, Just…blah.

The hype of the New Year is settling down, routines are getting back to normal, and old urges and habits might be peaking their nasty heads around the corner.  What happens when our motivation deflates?  It can be hard to pull ourselves out of this slump, especially if we haven’t been seeing or feeling results from changes we’re trying to incorporate.

When life gets too messy and things just don’t seem to be working no matter what you do, take it as a sign that it’s time to check your environment.

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“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower”.

Do your surroundings match up to what you are trying to achieve?  If you are trying to incorporate more fruits and vegetables in your life, make sure you are adequately stocked up on them; let it overtake the pre-packaged manufactured foods so that your choices and eyes are drawn to your goal.

If you are working on improving your sleep, make sure your bathroom and bedroom are inviting, clean, and calming to your senses.  Make your lights dimmer, use candles or natural sprays to set the aroma (our sense of smell plays a huge role in getting us to relax!) with some lavender, develop a self-care routine (mark one night a week to take an epsom-salt bath, use a face mask, dry brush, etc.), and leave stressful readings and negative TV/gossip for another time (or leave it all together!).

What if your tank is too empty to even try anything?  The world can appear overwhelming, annoying, and negative if we begin to slip too far.  Sure, it may seem easy to preach that you just ‘need to change your mindset’, but even that can be daunting.  This is where you have to take a step back and rely on someone other than yourself.  This involves letting go of a piece of your ego (it won’t hurt, I promise) and opening up just enough to talk to someone.

When the load gets too heavy to bear on your own, know that letting go of a belief about yourself will lighten your being.  It is in our human nature to share, communicate, and help.

There is always someone in your life who is there for you – no matter how alone you might feel.  Whether it’s a stranger behind the checkout counter, a person on social media, your sibling, old friend, or a life coach, there is someone here to listen.

It has taken me along time to realize that the load I was carrying was only put on by myself.  Learning to let go and talk through it has cleared up and opened more avenues than I would have imagined and I hope you can find a way to do the same.  Here are some ideas when things are feeling too hard to move forward on your own:

  • Journal – writing helps to physically and mentally release emotions, even if it’s just one sentence.
  • Rearrange your space – when our personal space is blocked, out mental space is blocked.  Match your environment to how you want to feel!
  • Talk it out – reach out to someone who listens; they may offer guidance from a new perspective that helps you rearrange your thoughts.
  • Watch something funny – nothing is more healing than a good laugh.
  • Cry – a part of change is letting go.  Let your tears flow and give yourself permission to feel.

Whether you are in a deep place or find your mind wandering away from your best self, always let your surroundings hold you in place.  Sometimes, the shift in our mental self is ahead of our physical self.  Learning to balance the outside and the inside will create a more settled sense of self, leading to a smooth path of motivation.

One Comment Add yours

  1. Molly Hahn says:

    What a woderful post, Caroline! Thank you so much for sharing! We all need to read this… over and over!


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